14 Feb 2011

Best Valentine’s Day Ever

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I’ve never liked Valentine’s Day. I’m not a fan of forcing someone to be nice to me, or tell me they love me just because they’re “supposed” to.

The last V-Day that Russ and I actually “celebrated” was the first one we had together, 13 years ago. We went out to a nice restaurant, had champagne and mediocre food, terrible service, and an awful time. It probably cost a couple hundred bucks, which we didn’t have at the time. We were miserable and vowed to never do that again.

My folks, however, absolutely loved Valentine’s Day. It was the only day of the year that my dad would pick what my parents would be doing, and more often than not, they’d go out to dinner with two other couples and have a blast. My dad always bought my mom jewelry and she loved it. She never understood why Russ and I couldn’t get behind the holiday.

This morning I woke Russ up with a card I had bought him a couple weeks ago. I just thought, “Why not?” I took the opportunity to tell him one extra time today how much I adore him. I also put a card in G’s lunch, from both of us. He told me he was so excited when he opened it! This morning, I spent an hour and a half at school with G, having muffins and tea and playing with him and all his friends and their parents. That was pretty great. I came home from that to a vase of beautiful flowers and a card from Russ. All good. All really good. And much more than we normally do for Valentine’s Day.

A couple of weeks ago, I asked my mom to join us for dinner on V-Day. As usual, she asked why Russ and I didn’t do something special, and as usual I told her we don’t like this holiday. She happily agreed to come over. Today I made a big casserole and put it in the fridge. My mom came over at 3:00, all dressed up and beautiful, and she and I picked G up from school. She played with him while I made a salad and some veggies and put the casserole in to bake. Then at 5:30, my brother, sister-in-law and niece and nephew came over. My sis-in-law had made a chocolate bundt cake and bought fresh berries. We ate, laughed, ate some more, laughed some more, and even cried a little.

Garrett played for hours with his cousins, who built a fort for him when he wasn’t looking. They ran around, played games on the computer, played Wii Fit, and hid in the fort. We all ate dessert, watched some of the Grammys I had taped, and we all cleaned up together.

When my mom got home, she called and said she thought this was going to be a very sad day, her first Valentine’s without my dad. But it wasn’t. At least, it wasn’t anywhere near as sad as she had thought it would be. That’s pretty great.

So I think we’ve started a new Valentine’s tradition. It’s a tradition of love. Russ and I tell each other and Garrett that we love each other 1,000 times a day. And we mean it every, single time. We also show it in ways I couldn’t begin to count. We don’t need a holiday to celebrate that. (Not that you’re lacking in love if you DO celebrate! More power to you!) But how cool that we got to celebrate the love of family tonight. I feel very blessed.

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Lisa Arch likes being a working actress... but LOVES being a Mom!
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14 Responses to “Best Valentine’s Day Ever”

  1. Reply Tina says:

    Oh, now that should have come with a teary-eye disclaimer. What a lovely post and clearly, a beautiful Valentine Day. You are so lovely and indeed very blessed. Many more blessings to you and your family. Happy Valentines Day. Tina @ Three In The Bed

  2. Reply Mary says:

    That is so wonderful!

  3. Reply Matt Iseman says:

    Ah, jeez, Arch. Thanks for making me feel great about being single in a hotel tonight. 😉 Loved the story, loved the sentiment. Save me some casserole.

    • Reply flawlessmom says:

      Matt!!! At least you’re at a NICE hotel! Right? (It’s nice, right?) You would have to pry the casserole from Russ’ death grip. I’ll just make a fresh one next time you’re in the valley!!

  4. Reply Allison says:

    That brought a beautiful tear to my eyes. Happy Valentine’s Night!!

  5. Reply Koch says:

    VERY VERY sweet and wonderful. And absolutely NOTHING like my night! (Does all alone with 2 scary movies and a passed-out pug count?)

    I did get flowers for the wife and wrote out a big ol’ card expressing gratitude about how much I relish our hours together. I hate Valentines Day.

  6. Reply Koch says:

    “I’m blessed, he’s blessed, she’s blessed, blessed, blessed, blessed…”. D-Debra?

  7. Reply Lindsay Dianne says:

    There are all kinds of types of love. you just observed a really great type of love: Familial love. And that’s just as important as romance, if not more.
    Good for you, and great post.
    It was a very sweet thing to do for your mother.

    • Reply flawlessmom says:

      Thanks, Lindsay. Yeah, I think from now on Valentine’s Day is going to be a family holiday for all of us. We loved it so much. PLUS… No expensive meal out or paying for a babysitter or having to get all gussied up!! Added bonuses!

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