20 May 2011

Cool Kids

4 Comments Personal Crap

I always wonder what it’s like to be one of the “cool kids”. I’ve always wondered. Those people who seem to be super-comfortable in their skin, who have cool hair-cuts, and know exactly how to dress. The ones who can pull off the giant tattoos across their backs, and even make the small ankle tattoos look good. What is that like?

I’ve never been cool. Honest. Sometimes people assume I am because I’m on TV. But then they meet me and immediately know the truth.

I try to be cool sometimes. I say, “YEAH! Let’s totally go out for drinks! We might need to get a cab home, though!” Then I have three quarters of a glass of Cabernet and try not to fall asleep in my salad.

I act like I know my designer jeans and shoes. I don’t.

And I don’t even try to pretend to know the hip places to eat, or which new club has popped up somewhere.

I’m not cool.

And so, just like a pimple-faced teen wonders what it’s like to be a Playboy Playmate, I wonder what it’s like to be cool.

Do they know they’re cool?

Do they look in the mirror and think, “Yeah. I totally rock.”

Do they force their kids to be cool, or are they just naturally cool because “cool” is genetic?

You know the kids I’m referring to. The ones with the faux hawks, or the real hawks, or the hair that’s so long, you can’t quite put your finger on what sex they are. They’re the ones with the awesome shoes. Not the ones that light-up when they stomp. The ones that don’t.

The cool women resist bad sweat pants. They lose their baby weight immediately, or manage to dress awesomely for their new bodies. They don’t ever talk in stressed-out high-pitched voices. They’re calm. They’re good photographers. They buy their furniture at thrift stores, or they at least make it look like they do.

They went through a drug period, or they completely resisted drugs because their parents had a problem. If they laugh at your joke, it’s because it’s really funny. Otherwise, they’re not going to exert the energy. They never act like something’s a “big deal”.  Everything just… Is.

Do these cool people cry about their kids growing up too fast?  Do they ever trip walking off a curb? Do they buy too many vegetables at the supermarket and end up throwing out half of them? Do they ever buy their kids’ clothes at Target or Nordstrom Rack? Do they eat high-fiber cereal?

I’m thinking about becoming the Jane Goodall of cool people. I’ll just slowly infiltrate their lives until they accept me as one of their own. Then I’ll take copious notes and glean all I can about their way of life. And, I won’t just be doing it for me. I’ll be doing it for anyone who isn’t cool and all of the future generations. I think it’s time I learn about these creatures.

Now, if someone could just tell me where they hang out so I could get this project started.

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Lisa Arch likes being a working actress... but LOVES being a Mom!

4 Responses to “Cool Kids”

  1. Reply Carla says:

    LISA! You ARE cool!
    You are funny, intelligent, creative and sassy!
    caring, respectful, inspiring, and a great Mom.
    You make us all feel like what we have to say is important.
    That is priceless.
    Life is not about shoes, clothes, cars or other material things.
    It is about what we give, and what we recieve…and Karma:)
    And you have LOTS of good Karma……..

    • Reply flawlessmom says:

      Awwww, thanks Carla. I agree that life isn’t about material things. BELIEVE ME!! I just wonder about the ever-elusive “cool factor”. I find it fascinating!! But I appreciate what you said very, very much.

  2. Reply AL says:

    Cool Kids are over-rated (in the context you present)….they are the kids, who, at the ten year high school reunion have pretty much “bombed out” in the real world, divorced (at least once) with many of their physical attributes…well, less than attractive. The others, for the sake of our discussion, “un-cool” kids have learned a lot by observing the shallow, meaningless, artificiality of the fish bowl known as high school. The jock is now beginning to lose hair, add a paunch and has settled into “daddy’s business” as his success model….the popular mean girl? She has gained twenty, had the obligatory 2.5 kids, is working on her second or third “relationship” and has settled for PTA as the social circle.

    Meanwhile, the geeks, nerds and other socially disabled, “average looking” boys and girls have blossomed into the movers and shakers in their respective careers! I’ve watched it over and over again, generation after generation….it’s sad what happens to the others who, believe that the material world will always insulate you from becoming a real person.

    Personally, I was the skinny, underdeveloped nerdy girl who moved through my high school years as, in theatrical jargon, “an extra”. Not that I ever set the world on fire afterwards, but I did have sort of a caterpiller into a butterfly moment, about two years after graduation. It was sweet to have one of the “jocks” who, had eyes only for the “cool girls” meet me with a wide-eyed expression of disbelief when he learned we had graduated in the same class. His words? “No way, I would have remembered YOU, if we had ever been in the same class!”…..Yep…it was a sweet, sweet moment, especially as his now frumpy, ex-rally girl/wife looked on. Is that mean of me? Maybe a little bit… 🙂

    So, being COOL is about who you are, not what you are. I know COOL, even at my advanced age…and, You’re definately one of the Coolest, never fear!

    • Reply flawlessmom says:

      AL, I get it. I do. And I think maybe I mis-represented what I was trying to say. I don’t mean the jerks, or pretty girls or even the ones with money or popularity. I’m talking more about the “cool” people in their 30’s who are kind and interesting… And who just have that little extra something. The “cool” factor that I never had. Does that make sense at all? Maybe it only makes sense to me.
      Either way, I appreciate so much that you think I’m cool. I think you’re one of the coolest!

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