Do you keep your promises?
One thing that always gave me great security growing up was the fact that my parents never broke a promise to me. Seriously. Never. If they used the word “promise”, it held great weight.
Russ and I are raising G the same way. If we make a promise we keep it. If we’re not sure we can deliver, we don’t promise. We say, “We’ll see”, or “Maybe”. But a promise is a guarantee.
I realized, however, that I promise things to other people that I don’t always stick to. It’s not purposeful. As a matter of fact, I always think I’m going to do what I say I’m going to do… But I don’t always. So I’m trying a couple of things when it comes to the promises I make outside of my family:
A. Promise only when it’s something I know for a fact I’m going to follow through on, just like I do with my son.
B. Make fewer promises
I promised a teacher at G’s school that I would try her family’s new restaurant a couple of months ago. I meant it, but I never followed through. When I saw her the other day, I told her again that we would be coming by. Tonight, we did. I felt good about it because I kept my word. Our kids see everything. And even though G didn’t know I made that promise, he does know that we supported a friend of ours.
Several months ago, we visited an amazing animal sanctuary and I promised (I PROMISED) I would help the woman who runs the place raise some money by having a charity event. I don’t even know where it came from, but I was so overwhelmed by the work she does… I just wanted to help. I absolutely have to keep that promise, and I will. And I feel like I have to do it soon.
But I need to think before blurting out a promise. I need to make sure it’s something I can follow through on, or I need to make it clear that I’m going to try to do my best.
So, do you keep your promises? How much does it matter when people keep their promises to you?